Casino Of Life

Your family welcomes you at the sliding glass doors and your overtaken by bright colors flashing lights, sounds, buzzers, bells, and the smells of a variety of foods.  The security guard gives you a wink and tells you to have a good time. Your money pouch is full of time. Your family takes you by the hand.  They lead you through the main part of this magical place and teach you how to play some of the games.


Your loved ones also take you to the buffet which has every food in the world. They may encourage you to try different foods while you are here, or may you decide to try some on your own. Either way, you learn what you like to eat, what's good for you, and what's not so food for you.


First, there was the card game of First Words where you learned how to talk, then there was the slot machine game of Potty Training which didn't pay well at first, but the longer and longer you played, the more it paid off. You put your time down and play for each game. Your parents lead you to your a card game called School and show you how to play. There are a lot of people at this table. In this game you play against the house but you have the option to play with or against other people at the table. You spend a lot of time here and make some good friends and perhaps even an enemy or two, but another game catches your eye; Driving.


You promise your you'll come back to School and play more, but right now you're interested to see what Driving has to offer. You go over and initially it seems very intimidating; big screen with a drivers seat and steering wheel. You're nervous, but you sit down at the game and play anyway knowing that it will help you get to to and from other games faster. You put in your time and learn the rules. Your loved ones sit next to you to guide you along, making sure you're safe. You learn all about car insurance, what kinds of cars you like, paying fines, etc.


A little later, you walk away from this game happy that you now potentially have faster access to other games in this casino. You go back to the School table and play a few more hands there. As you leave that table for what feels like the last time, you say goodbye to some friends and see you later to some others. You eventually find the Love and Relationships table which is a slot machine which you've played on and off. Sometimes you won and found a great match. Sometimes you lost and there was no one. Other times you won a mini-game called a Fling, and sometimes you may have won the jackpot; the Soulmate. You may have spent a lot of time here at the casino.


You see other games like College and Having Kids. You may or may not do these things. Those games determine whether or not other games open to you such as Parenting or Becoming a Doctor.


You eventually come across a slot game called Work which can pay consistently depending how you play. This machine also can take lots of your time but pays credits toward a game called Home of Your Own. Home Of Your Own is a card game which depending on how many credits you have from the Work game, determines what kind of home you live in, what kind of car you drive, etc. Your love ones can give you some of their credit that they've earned to help if they want. A portion of your credit can go toward the Retirement game as well. You notice your parents have been eyeing the Retirement table themselves. Eventually you don't see them on the game floor anymore. It's okay.


You realize you's spent a lot of time and you may have gone to or gone back to the College or Having Kids games. Your Work game character may change the more time you put in as well as your Home and the things within it. You still spend time at the Love and Relationships game trying to win or winning the Moments of Romance mini-game. You occasionally see your family playing their games and you visit with them. You may spend a lot of time on them too. Depending on your options and how much time you have spent you may play the Grandkids game too where you see many grandparents teaching there grand kids things, take care of them, and spoiling them.


You and potentially your significant other eventually reach the Retirement game which is nice, easy card game which can potentially give you credit toward many of the previous other games like Travel, Home of Your Own, Driving, etc. It also gives you time to reflect on all you've experienced. Your time is running out, but that's okay. You spend time enjoying the games and people around you. You may play the Write A Will game at this point because you care about your loved ones.


You've now run out of time. Your pouch is empty. You get up to leave. Your parents and all your loved ones meet you back at the sliding glass doors where you started. Someone else is there too they ask if you had a good time. They are the casino owner. Depending on what you played and how you played determines your answer. "I built this place because I love you and I've been watching you" says the owner, "It's always wonderful to watch people play no matter what they play or how." The owner smiles. "No matter what, you always get something out of playing here and I'm always here if you need anything. Play here again, won't you?"

What's Your Relationship with Love Itself?

What is your relationship with love? 

This was the question that occurred to me this morning as I was sitting on my couch this morning, sipping my coffee in my underwear. I honestly had never really considered such a question. Love is just a thing we do, right?

People do, fix, and fixate. We spend a lot of time doing life. Just like for me this morning. I got up, put on my underwear, and made coffee so I could be awake and ready for the day. I've done this a million times before. It's second-nature now. When we have problems of any kind; relationship, financial, career, among others we fixate on these issues even if its just in the back of our minds all day long.

How often though do we actually appreciate what we have, what we've been through, the people in our lives, etc.? Often times I find myself just doing and not leaving time to appreciate. Beyond that, I'm not giving myself the time to realize how much I actually have. This puts me at a distance with love in a way. To appreciate and feel kindness for the people in my life, the experiences I've had in my life, etc. allows me to bring more experiences and people into my life with love and joy.

Many times throughout my life like many others, I was told, "be nice." We are told this among other lessons. Being polite and nice become things we do. Sometimes we just don't want to exert that extra energy to be nice but we do anyway. This is where we get those reflex responses of, "good" when you're really not when someone asks,"how are you?" My point here being that by cultivating more love and appreciation, you can live more authentically. Love and appreciation gives us energy but also opens doors of possibilities and new connections with others as well as yourself.

Admittedly, I'm cynical/doubtful when other spiritual people say things like, "I have unconditional love for..." or "I love you all!" Um...you don't know me(?) and if you really did know me or many of the other people you're addressing on a grand scale would you really love us? Again, practicing appreciation and love quiets this inner cynicism and doubt.

Lastly, fear can't hold you if are in a state of love. Love is a state of allowance and flow. Nothing can stick or attach itself to you if you are in a state of love.

So my question to you all for the day is, what is your relationship with love itself?

Have a great day! :)

Alex J.

The Art of Doing Nothing

Some days I don't feel spiritual. I have knowledge and know I can do practices (meditations, visualizations, prayers, etc.) but my heart isn't in it. Then guilt sets in: "Am I a bad spiritual person? Am I hurting myself spiritually by not practicing daily? Am I setting myself back from reaching my full potential?" Despite sounding convenient, probably not. If I'm not emotionally invested in what I'm doing spiritually, the energy is going to feel the same; dry, boring, and/or forced. Instead of falling prey to guilt, having the understanding that I'm human and that I have off days like everyone else is humbling. I could jump the hoops of asking, "Do I have a energetic block?" but I follow the energetic flow that is my feelings which say, it's okay, just be Alex today. My spirit guides laugh at me often because I overthink situations. You can't fix what's not broken. My psychic abilities are working and can be of service to others, I'm just not in the spiritual mood and that's okay.

Have a good day. :)

A Message to Beginners and Seasoned Practitioners

Along my spiritual journey I have wanted very badly to improve my psychic abilities. Many times I would become frustrated over periods of time because I had not developed the psychic skills I sought for. I wanted to be able to see spirits with my physical sight, to hear spirits with my physical ears, etc. I wanted to be a very strong psychic and medium so that I could help the living and those who have passed. I succeeded in becoming a psychic and medium and have been reading for 12 years now. I'm happy with the work I do, but I'm always looking to become stronger spiritually.

I was reminded today during and after my meditation, that there is a reason why physical reality is so "loud" and why subtle or energetic reality is so "quiet." We are physical beings. I know, it's not a mind-blowing insight, far from. In order to be of effective service we need to take care of ourselves as physical beings. That said, the more we pay attention to the subtle/intuitive impressions the stronger our awareness of those impressions becomes. Sometimes it feels like I am either on one side or the other; living physically or living energetically. The balancing act is tricky but getting better day by day.

I'm writing this as a reminder to those who practice or are new, not to give up or get discouraged. The art of the psychic world is one of patience with yourself, the willingness to learn, the willingness to try, and being willing to be wrong. One of the best teachers is yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Let your ego have it's tantrums, acknowledge them and move on with a smile. The more you can be patient with yourself as well as willing to learn to receive, the more you will grow spiritually.

Thank you.

Alex J.

www.psychicalexj.com

I DO NOT Give Free Readings

I do not give free readings. Many of you have private messaged me and asked. I'm sorry, I am truly. There are a few reasons for this.

1. Burnout. The amount of people asking for free readings is endless. Readings take time and energy and as a human being I have limited amounts of each. Money is a respected boundary.
2. It is in my experience that those I have given free readings to in the past do not respect the message given through me from Spirit.
3. I gotta eat and pay bills. Fact of the matter is I've worked at my psychic abilities for over 10 years now. Should I not get paid for something I've worked hard to develop? I love what I do and love helping people, but we still live in a world where basic living comes at a cost.

I love you all. Please forgive me for not giving free readings. I want to help you all, but like you, I'm human and I cannot survive in the current U.S. culture on only praise and gratitude. Please understand. Thank you.

Sea of Diamonds

It is interesting to me about what I feel enlightenment is versus what I think it is. I think enlightenment  requires us to move away and unattach ourselves from people and worldly possessions in order to find inner peace and understanding. What I feel enlightenment is, is more of a guideline for all people to in the world, but not of the world. All possessions, emotions, experiences, etc. are impermanent; to be learned from but not to be held on to and to enjoy but to ultimately release. This is where love and compassion play their roles because loving ourselves and others enough to be part of the flow of life peacefully without allowing ourselves to be caught in the illusion of attachment, we grant ourselves true liberation.

Consider it like holding on to a fistful of diamonds. These diamonds are important to you because they represent parts of who you are emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and materialistically. We hold on to these diamonds, identifying, "this is me." Over time some of the diamonds fall out of our hands and we end up picking up new ones and this happens throughout lifetimes. What we often miss is that we are always standing in an ocean of diamonds just beneath our feet, but are often too busy cradling the diamonds in our hands or seeking specific diamonds to notice. It takes courage to look beyond our hands. Make no mistake, the sea of diamonds does not invalidate or make worthless  the diamonds you are holding or identify with currently. On the contrary! They brought you to where you are so you could see the sea of diamonds for yourself.

My Beliefs About The Third Eye Chakra

I have seen a lot of posts recently about the third eye chakra and I just wanted to share my beliefs and knowledge on the subject.

1. The third eye is already open and has been open since having been born/reborn. It does not need to be opened to experience a spiritual experience. We become aware of awareness, which could be considered an "opening" but it has always been there and open whether you we aware of it or not. Using spiritual practices, we become more strongly aware of our awareness. Some drugs have a similar effect but I do not condone such action.
2. While psychic awareness is great, we have an entire chakra system which may be also in need of balancing. I used to be very third eye focused when I started on my spiritual path, but I realized that in order to have a more stable third eye awareness, I needed to work on the chakras lower and the one higher in order to have a stronger spiritual experiences. I feel there may be a tendency to be very third eye focused for many.
3. I have seen a few posts about people seeking to open their third eye wider or to have a stronger experience. The best way in my opinion to have a stronger spiritual experience naturally, is to take a few minutes every day to breathe in and out for each chakra point and visualize or feel each chakra point open for each inhale and exhale you do. (If you feel dizzy, light-headed, etc. please stop and try again later. I want no one passing out.) Practice makes perfect and what you are doing is building awareness of your energy with this basic practice. Also by doing this, you become more attuned to intuitive visions and energies.
4. A chakra that is blocked does not mean it is not flowing at all. It may just mean it is flowing a lot less or not as well than what it could be because of an issue. I get the the feeling that some feel a blocked chakra is a completely closed chakra.
5. Decalisfying your pineal gland or third eye - while I have never tried these activities myself, I would be interested in trying them.

Please do not take my word as gospel. I am simply sharing my beliefs which I have experienced over my spiritual journey of 11 years and counting working with myself and other people. If you agree or disagree, awesome. Please tell me your thoughts on the spiritual energy system and your beliefs. I am open to new experiences and thoughts/beliefs. :)

Thank you,

Psychic Alex J.

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Live Now

Another day. Today feels much different than yesterday. Yesterday I had low energy, depression, anger, helplessness, etc. I did a nice ritual last night and meditated this morning. This morning I feel energized, alive, happy, motivated, loving, etc. We always have the choice to transform our vibrations from lower to higher or higher to lower. We aren’t helpless. Sometimes we just simply need to give ourselves the ability to acknowledge where we are and how we feel and do what we feel is best. Sometimes, by setting our eyes to the future, it can cause sadness by virtue of seeing all we need to do in order to reach that future point. Happiness is in the present. Experience the now. Accept the now. Appreciate now.

For Clarity: Personal Psychic Mythbusters

Recently there are a few things that have come to my attention about some misconceptions about who I am as a psychic and what I can do. I write this to bring some clarity.

Are You For Real?
Yes, I am a genuine psychic. I’ve asked myself this question many times. I now have ten years and counting of experience and I’ve had a lot of self-doubt over the years. Imagine being able to see images and experience feelings which are not your own. Psychic abilities (which everyone has, but very few work with actively) does not come with an instruction manual. Many of the methods/modalities available to the public have been developed out of trial and error in combination with Spirit’s guidance. The proof is in the pudding. Over the years, the messages I’ve given have been accurate and helpful and my work with others reflects that. Many people do not trust psychics because of the actions of either frauds who claim to be psychic or people misunderstood the messages given to them by genuine psychics and so, see us as frauds. The only way to truly determine if a psychic is good is to actually get a reading with a psychic. If their messages make you fearful and/or are inaccurate, the psychic is not connected to a high energy or are only looking to make a buck off of you. Most psychics charge for their service; money is an energy, but if the psychic is telling you that you have a curse on you and that if you pay $200, they can remove the curse, they are not legitimate. I have never told anyone that they are cursed or come across anyone who is cursed. If their messages are accurate and/or helpful then they are a good fit for you.

Do You Talk To Demons or Evil Energies?
No. Absolutely not. In my experience, the images I see and the feelings I experience from others and from Spirit, have always been of love and to assist clients for their best and highest good. I have never actively sought out to speak to evil or malicious energies. When I first started working with Spirit actively, I asked God/Spirit, my spirit guides, angels, and ancestors to protect me from evil or negative or evil energies and to only work with energies that serve mine and my clients best and highest good. In my experience, there is no such thing as evil energies just those who are deeply misunderstood, lost, or confused. That isn’t to say those particular energies can’t do harm, they certainly can. Those are the energies I am protected from. 

Do You Tell People When They Are Going To Die?
No. I made an agreement with my higher guidance that I don’t want to see or be shown any of that. I feel that everyone chooses when they die and that is an agreement we all make with Spirit.

You Can Read People Over The Phone or Over Skype? 

Yes, all energy is connected. I’ve read people all over the world by phone, Skype, or and even text message. Distance is no obstacle for me, however, it may be for others.

Can You Read People At Any Time?

No. I only read those who have asked for a reading. Doing otherwise does not serve either of our best and highest goods. I also do not read minds.

I hope this gives some needed clarity. Be well. 

The Mindset of "Try"

I felt my conscious slowly trying to make it's way to the surface from the depths of my sleep this morning. As I was rising back into my body, I had an interesting dialogue between my spirit and my mind. It went something like this:

Spirit: Here we go again. (Happily, but wise)

Mind: Yes, yes I'm gonna try and it's gonna be really good (meaning to try to be successful, happy, etc)!

Spirit: You  say "try" a lot. By "trying" you're not setting yourself for success. By saying "try" you give yourself two options; success or failure. By doing something you actually succeed no matter what because even if you fail, you still learn something. Do, don't try.

I realize doing and trying can be seen as one in the same, but I'm not here to have a solo semantics debate. I'm here to say that the intention we put behind doing something is much stronger than trying to do something. I'll give you a few personal examples. I try to exercise every day then I end up skipping days because I get home after a day of being out and I'm tried or I just don't want to. I'll try to meditate for longer periods to get more insights and spiritual breakthroughs and I'll end up meditating for 20 minutes and then binge-watch Bob's Burgers. I know I'm not alone in this struggle. I have a lack of focus and dedication that I'm really trying hard to work on. I'm getting over what I call my lazy hump on a daily basis. Our goal is the boulder from the Myth of Sisyphus and the hill we are pushing it up is our own hump. This hump is an emotional and mental build up of all those sentiments of "I'm tired, I'm sad, I just can't today, it's too hard, just no, it's too much work, etc." 

Just do it. Do whatever you set you mind to accomplish your dream or desire. The more we let our lazy humps keep us from doing something, the larger the hump gets because it becomes a cycle of self-defeat. We don't have to accomplish all what we are trying to in a single day, but we can accomplish one or more steps to achieving our goal daily. So today my goal was to write this blog post, go to Spot Coffee on Hertel Ave. to offer psychic readings/spiritual life coach consultations, go home, exercise, and order a pizza. I'm doing it! What are you going to do today? :)

The Spiritual Impact of Keeping Silent

When I first started on my spiritual path, I could not shut up about it. Everything was energies this, crystals that, this chakra was open, this one was not, etc. My friends can attest to this and one friend even had a sit-down conversation about how not everything was spiritually-related and that I should really ease up on the "spiritual thing."

Telling people things can have a great impact; informing people about their rights, sharing new and improved medical breakthroughs, letting someone know you care, warning them of the dangers and joys of life, etc. Telling something to someone can can positively and negatively affect someone. 

What about not saying anything, specifically in the realm of the spiritual? I’ve found that sometimes not telling anyone about a process I’m working through makes it that much more powerful. There is a sacredness in keeping silent. Not everything that happens between spirit and I needs to be known by those I care about. Whether it’s a ritual I’ve done, a certain kind of meditation, a certain technique I’ve developed for achieving something, etc. it doesn't always need to be shared in order to have power, in fact, quite the opposite. 

I used to believe the more I told people about my spiritual experiences, the more they would become more constant. I thought I was telling the universe I was seeking more of those experiences by telling people about them (the jury is still out about that). The reality of the situation for me was, it felt like after I told someone the experience's intensity faded, instead of being held in joyous silence. Perhaps it depends on the person you tell. 


It’s like having a lover and then telling your friends everything about that lover. Some people don’t mind sharing, but some people just like to keep some things between each other. It’s a preference to be sure. I’m just saying I’ve learned to not only be careful about how and what I share, but I’ve also become mindful of the fact that I don’t need to share everything.

I'm not saying people shouldn't share. It really comes down to your own intuitive discretion. If you feel as if you can share an experience with someone without the experience fading, then by all means. If not, that's okay too. Your relation to spirit is just as valid as anyone else's. Have a great weekend.